"How To Cope With Premature Ejaculation"
If you suffer from premature ejaculation you are not alone!
Over seventy percent males experience it at some point in their live. This is a high percentage, and makes premature ejaculation our most common sexual dysfunction.
The first question of coping with something is usually why . So why do all this men (used to be me, and probably includes you) come to fast?
Normally people think it is caused by having a hyper sensitive penis, but the truth is exactly the opposite. If you suffer from premature ejaculation most likely you haven't felt the sensation of being about to come strong enough to learn to recognise it. Or some anxiety blocks the feeling it.
The two causes of premature ejaculation are; Inexperience and Anxiety
Most common anxiety that causes premature ejaculation is performance anxiety. We all want to perform when we have sex. This is one area where everybody wants to get as high score as possible. But if we are tense, our pressure can be our worst enemy.
We panic without knowing, and ejaculate to fast.
If we on the other hand would relax and be down to earth, we would do much better. We would still want to be great. But if we know the world won't end if she has ever had a better lover (and she probably hasn't), or if we don't do everything perfectly, it is actually more likely we will last.
There are many other kind of anxiety, which cause men to ejaculate to fast. You might be afraid to get her pregnant, you might be afraid somebody will find out (spouse, wife, mother, god), or you might just be stressed about something totally different like work or money.
No matter what your anxiety is about it will block you from being present enough to notice, or caring when you are about to come.
More common reason for premature ejaculation is inexperience.
Premature ejaculation is most common with younger men, because they haven't the experience, to recognise the feeling when they are about to come, and then do something about it.
What we learn, from experience, is that at some time point, in the process of having sex, men reach a point when they will inevitable ejaculate within few seconds.
Until you reach this point you can back out, stop, change position, and there fore delay the ejaculation, or stop all to gather and not come at all. But after you reach this point, no matter what you do, you will ejaculate.
What premature ejaculator suffering from inexperience has to do is learn to recognise each stage he goes through having sex. And especially know the feeling when he is about to come to the place of no return.
When we grow more experienced our body will feel this automatically, and stop us from premature ejaculate, before it is to late. Some men never learn this, though, without some external help.
You can learn more about helps to cure premature ejaculation in the article, solutions for premature ejaculation.
Now, because the causes for premature ejaculation are anxiety or inexperience, the conclusion must be that premature ejaculators are not hyper sensitive, and have to desensitise then self.
On the contrarily to cure premature ejaculation you have to learn to relax, take things slowly, and feel the sensation of what you are doing stronger.